Probably given me a Lecture about how Irresponsible I Was. And not taken me anywhere for several months. And taken away my tiny allowance. My stepfather might have spanked me, which didn't really do any good.
None of those would have been a punishment; my parents were so busy with my baby brothers and my mom was such a scatterbrain that I got to do very little as a child.
The biggest mistake that my parents made was that they denied me so many things, I had no motivation whatsoever to please them, or be "good." I acted out a lot becuase I felt I was being constantly punished for being the oldest (and the child from another marriage) so I ignored and broke a lot of rules.
It made me feel better; if I was going to be constantly miserable due to my parents incompetence, at lease I could sleep at night because I felt I deserved it a bit. I don't think you and Gnomi will have these problems, but try to keep in mind rewards as well as punishments.
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Date: 2011-03-06 05:53 pm (UTC)None of those would have been a punishment; my parents were so busy with my baby brothers and my mom was such a scatterbrain that I got to do very little as a child.
The biggest mistake that my parents made was that they denied me so many things, I had no motivation whatsoever to please them, or be "good." I acted out a lot becuase I felt I was being constantly punished for being the oldest (and the child from another marriage) so I ignored and broke a lot of rules.
It made me feel better; if I was going to be constantly miserable due to my parents incompetence, at lease I could sleep at night because I felt I deserved it a bit. I don't think you and Gnomi will have these problems, but try to keep in mind rewards as well as punishments.